As a single mom, it’s easy to forget about your self-care.
You are so busy taking care of your child, your job, your apartment, and your bills that you put yourself last. All. The. Time.
On top of that, taking out time for yourself often comes with a super bad conscience because you believe it to be selfish, unnecessary and simply bad. It’s better to be selfless, focus on others and be the giver all the time, right?
It’s so very important to nurture yourself, your needs and desires, especially as a single mom.
Self-care is joyful, never selfish.
After all, who will take care of everything when you are depleted and depressed? Nobody.
That’s why it’s crucial to have a steady self-care routine.
Developing a nurturing self-care routine is super easy and fun to do. It’s best to experiment a bit to figure out what feels right for you. But if you’re struggling to get started, here are 44 quick tips for you.
You can try them all, pick the ones that speak to you and adapt them to your liking.
1. Go complaint free for at least a day
This’ll free your mind of negative thoughts and it’ll instantly improve your mood.
2. Get sweatin’
Being physically active nurtures your well-being and your inner balance.
3. Do something badly and be proud of it
Screw up and smile.
4. Have a romantic candle light dinner with yourself
Go all out and treat yourself to delicious delicatessen, champagne and classical music.
5. Kiss your reflection in the mirror
Give yourself a big smooch.
6. Unfriend annoying people on Facebook
You don’t need people who pull you down. Just click the button and you’ll see how free you’ll feel.
7. Educate yourself
Quench your curiosity by learning something new. Kill two birds with one stone by going to a museum with your child or taking him or her to the library.
8. Watch “The Notebook” or “My Best Friend’s Wedding”
Make yourself some popcorn and maybe invite a friend.
9. Say goodbye to false beliefs about yourself, your self-worth and your parenting skills
What beliefs are you holding on to and do they hold any truth? Dig deep.
Smiling is the best way to brighten your mood, especially on a grim day.
11. Feel the grass tickling your naked feet
This’ll ground you. Literally.
12. Draw a picture of your inner child
Relax, breathe and then let your hands show you the way. You’ll learn a lot about yourself and your needs if you can let go of thoughts like “I’m not good enough” when painting. This is super fun to do with your little one too.
13. Feel the beauty that surrounds you
Tune in to the wonderful people in your life, the gorgeous flowers in your garden, the breathtaking view of the mountains or the clear water of a lake.
14. Unplug for a few days
This’ll quiet the noises of “not good enough”, “not pretty enough” or “not skinny enough”.
15. Describe yourself in 5 words
Fun, loving, ambitious, witty, shy?
16. Tap into your intuition
Let your gut guide you for a change.
17. Breathe deeply
Whenever you’re stressed or tense, breathe deeply and consciously.
Release your emotions. It’s OK to be sad, feel lonely or hurt. Embrace those feelings as part of you.
19. Get lost in doing a puzzle
One of my favorite self-care practices and something that you can do with your child.
20. Pamper yourself (soak in a hot both, reward yourself with a relaxing face massage, get a new haircut or get a manicure and pedicure)
Don’t shy away from spending time and/or money on yourself. You deserve it.
21. Jump in piles of leaves
Be a child again – with your child.
22. Delight in little things
Enjoy the sun on your face, the taste of chocolate on your tongue, the excitement in a loved one’s voice or the laughter of a child.
23. Create a vision board
Get creative. Use images you’ve found in magazines, pictures you’ve taken yourself, glitter and lots of color.
Your child will be excited to unleash his or her creativity with you and together you can imagine a whole new future for yourselves.
24. Let go of the past
Holding on to it only hurts your health and your soul.
25. Hug yourself
Show yourself some love.
26. Read “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown or “You Can Heal Your Life” By Louise L. Hay
Eye-opening and inspiring books.
27. Go through pictures of your last vacation and indulge in memories
This always energizes me.
28. Schedule a few hours of „nothingness“ into your day
Doing nothing for an afternoon, a whole day or two will do wonders for your soul and your stress levels. Delight in the knowledge that you are allowed to sit on the couch, take a nap, listen to music or simply meditate for a while because there is no task that requires your immediate attention. After all, you’ve scheduled it, right?
29. Be your own best friend
Rely on yourself, trust yourself, love yourself.
Care about yourself, others and the world.
31. Show compassion towards yourself
Stop going after perfection and instead embrace fulfillment.
32. Take a break from self-improvement
Just be lazy and relax.
33. Play revenge on someone (but only in your mind)
This exercise helps tremendously when you have trouble letting go of the past.
34. Indulge in your favorite guitly pleasure.
C’mon, we all have some.
35. Close your eyes for a few minutes
Whenever you feel overwhelmed or need a few minutes to just breathe, close your eyes and notice your breath.
36. Sigh deeply
This is super invigorating.
37. Stop dieting
Diets only hurt your self-confidence. There’s nothing wrong with who you are, don’t let diets tell you so.
38. Walk around nakedly (at home, of course)
This’ll deepen the relationship you have with your body.
39. Create boundaries
Say “no” to others more often and thereby “yes” to yourself.
40. Sleep in
Oh, sleep is so important for your well-being. Sleep in every once in a while.
41. Look up to the sky and feel the power of the universe
You’re part of it all. Do you feel it?
42. Tell your loved ones how much you love them
Write a letter if you can’t say it out loud.
43. Tell yourself how much you love yourself every single day
If you can’t believe it just yet, you soon will. You have to be willing to change though.
44. Embrace spring by going on a bicycle tour – alone or with your child
Take a day off to go on a bicycle tour. Explore your neighborhood, your city or even venture out a bit further. You’ll easily be able to leave your everyday worries behind.
I want to hear from you. Have you given self-care a try? What are your favorite ways to practice self-care?
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