Do you feel stressed and overwhelmed and don’t know what to do about it?
I get it, life as a single mom certainly has it’s challenges and sometimes, it can just feel like too much, right?
So how can you make your daily reality easier and more relaxed?
Here are my tips:
1. Accept help
I gotta be honest, I take pride in the fact that I can do many things myself. I hardly ask for help and when I do, I feel uncomfortable. However, life is so much easier when you simply reach out and ask for another pair of hands, a few hours of a friend’s time, a shoulder to lean on. So, reach out, ask for help and when someone offers it, accept it. It might feel difficult at first, but you’ll be so much more relaxed and sane in the long run.
2. Build a network of babysitters
We all need babysitters and when you’re a single mom, you sometimes need help – urgently. So, build a network of babysitters that you trust, can call up anytime and that your child feels comfortable with. Don’t just stick with one, but have a few on hand, so that you don’t have to go into a small nervous breakdown should you have to work an hour late or are stuck in traffic on your way home from gym.
3. Look for role models
I’m a career girl. I want to create something big and meaningful and being a single mom, I was scared that I wouldn’t be able to build my business as fast and as big as I had planned.
However, when I looked around and searched for single mom role models, I found so many beautiful examples of women who are kicking ass in business and in life. Have you found your role models yet? If not, do so. It’ll help you along the way when you feel uninspired and overwhelmed.
4. Take care of yourself
Schedule time for yourself – even when you feel you don’t have enough time. Ever. It’s crucial to have some me time in the craziness of daily life. So, be mindful of spending a few hours away from your child, going to the gym, taking a long walk, reading a good book or sitting in meditation. The more you take care of yourself, the more your child will benefit.
5. Stop envying couples
Gosh, how much I envied couples that were raising their children together. I always felt this pang in the pit of my stomach when I saw friends share their family life and I felt like my baby and I were missing out.
However, life isn’t always shades of pink in couple’s lives either. They have their challenges too. So, stop looking at them with envy and instead focus on YOUR life with your little one.
6. Stop being Ms. Control Freak
Are you always trying to control ever minute of your day? Are you stressing out when you’re running 5 minutes late because you feel like it’ll ruin all of your plans? Well, here’s the thing, the more you hold on to plans and schedules the more stress you’ll create in your life.
So, try to relax into the natural flow of life with a child. Expect things to turn out completely differently than you’ve imagined and you’ll make your life a whole lot easier.
7. Celebrate yourself
You’re doing a heck of a job. You’re raising a child on your own and you deserve to be celebrated. So, be intentional about praising yourself – even if it’s only in your mind. Be proud of everything you’re managing to do and don’t let it go unnoticed. If you feel especially daring, take yourself out to dinner, go to the movies or treat yourself to a nice necklace. You deserve it.
8. Don’t compete with yourself aka. Cut yourself some slack
Stop trying to be perfect and instead realize that nobody will ever do everything just right. When you’re already super stressed and you feel like you have to whip up the perfect dinner, only to prove a point, don’t. Instead get takeout or heat up some leftovers from the other day. It’s OK. Nobody is going to kill you and your child will certainly survive. So, cut yourself some slack and take it easy.
What are your tips of making life as a single mom easier to manage?
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