After a divorce or breakup, many of us, single mothers, don’t know which way to turn. We have feelings of resentment, hurt, pain, disappointment and even loss. It may feel as though a family member died and although we would like nothing more than to lie in bed, and watch as the world goes by, we are still moms and we have to stay strong for our children.
I have noticed that some single moms, jump right into a relationship and begin a pattern of going from relationship to relationship for the sake of “having a man” in their lives and not being alone. However, with a slew of men coming in and out of their homes, they are not only fulfilling the need to have love in their lives, but they are subjecting their children to a series of men, who they get used to today and who are gone tomorrow.
It totally makes for a poor example of healthy relationships for their children but more than that, they are masking the pain caused by the breakup and have not allowed themselves to get over the relationship and they have no idea how to figure out who they are, now that the relationship is over.
Ladies, I get that it can be very lonely as a single mother.
We all desire to feel loved and have male companionship but at what expense? Do you sacrifice your obligation to show your children what a healthy relationship looks like or do you teach your children, especially your daughters, that having a parade of men in and out of your lives is okay?
Do you lose yourself in the series of men that come in and out of your life and have you no clue as to how to find out who you are anymore?