Every night when my son, TJ says his prayers, he always thanks God “for this day that I had with my mom.” Sweet, huh? I think so too, but almost a year ago, he wasn’t thanking God “for the day that he had with his mom” because his mom was always at work. As I think back, he was probably silently thanking God for being able to “see” his mom.
You see, I am a retail store manager and quite obviously, don’t have a typical Monday thru Friday, 9 to 5 job and being a single mom, I have had to depend on sitters a great deal to take care of my son while I was working. My mom would always complain that “someone else was raising my son” and my reply to her would always be, “What else am I supposed to do? Not work? Last time I checked, I don’t have anyone helping me, so I gotta do, what I gotta do.”
And that’s just what I did. I worked nights, weekends and holidays. I worked 10-12 hour days and if one of my managers called out and I couldn’t cover it, I had to work from open to close (a 16 hour day). I made my schedule a month in advance, so if I didn’t know about a birthday party a month in advance and I wasn’t off that weekend, then my son was unable to go. After school activities, were a no go. My schedule didn’t permit them. I cooked dinner, maybe twice a week (on a good week) and baking…who had time for that? [Read more…]