I would venture to say that the women I know are harder on themselves than anyone else could ever be. Add motherhood to the mix and the gates open and the bad press for ourselves multiplies. Take that other person away who was helping the mom keep her perspective and single moms might be the hardest on themselves of any group of women. I know, and I can honestly say, I am much harder on myself now as a single mom than I ever was as a married mom.
I often wonder why we think that we have to be so good at being a mom. Why we raise the expectations when our life plans change and we find ourselves solely responsible for the little people looking back at us. Why we cannot give ourselves the break that everyone else seems to willing to give us.
The other night, after a particularly stressful day of motherhood, I was downtrodden. Beating myself up for not being strong enough to stand my ground as a mother. Upset that I was not creative enough to dissolve a tantrum faster. Frustrated that I was at the point of tears, exhausted and out of ideas to motivate myself for the next day.
In the back of my mind, though, was a little voice trying to get through. The good thought fairy that was trying to tell me to be proud of my day. Even when it seemed so hard and hopeless. Right then I grabbed a pen and made myself write down 5 things I was proud of as a single mom! [Read more…]