With the holiday season just around the corner, you are most definitely feeling not only the rush and excitement, but also the stress and even worries, especially if you are a single mother. Although this time of the year has been long perceived as the happiest and highly anticipated season, it is also surprisingly the opportunity to experience depression and anxiety. For single parents, this is not at all a big surprise. While being a single mom may mean that you will have to create new traditions or even spend the season all by yourself, there are still a lot of ways and things that you can come up with to make sure that you will enjoy this much-awaited break.
Holidays with your children
If you get to spend the holidays with your children, that is surely something to be thankful for. And of course, you will also need to do careful planning on how to make it special even without the other parent. Here are some tips to consider:
- Don’t be afraid to start a new tradition
Perhaps as a complete family you used to have traditions that you would always do or perform each year for this occasion. If it is no longer making you feel happy or comfortable, you can come up with something else by all means. Of course, you will still need to ask for your children’s opinion and if they agree, you can go ahead and start doing something new just for the sake of feeling a new sense of excitement and joy. For example, if you and your family used to cook meals at home, maybe this year you can still do the same but also try something from a nearby restaurant. Or you can also cook a new dish while boding with your kids.
- Make sure your children are involved in everything
Your kids will surely feel appreciated and important if you would always ask for their opinion before deciding on something. Not only will it make the task easier for you, but more so, it will bring you and your children closer. Let’s say you plan to go on a movie marathon or something to that effect, you can ask them first about the movies they want to want and consider their suggestions.
- Take a vacation and spend a lot of time with your kids
Apart from all the gifts and sumptuous meals, this season is also all about spending time with the people you love the most. If you can, take a vacation or file a leave from work so that you get to spend more quality time together. Your kids will absolutely appreciate your effort and they will never forget how you tried your best to make the holidays special and worth-remembering for them
Holidays without your children
If in case you will be spending the holidays alone, it does not have to mean that you will just sit on one corner and let the good times pass you by. Yes, it can be devastating to not have your kids with you on such special event but then, you also need to be considerate of the other parent’s feelings, and your children’s too. So, what can you do to make the holidays enjoyable and fun even when you are alone? Here are some tips:
- Go somewhere else
One of the best things you could do is to take a vacation and go somewhere else. It can be an out of town trip or just a visit to the beach – it does not really matter as long as you know you will have a great time and you can enjoy even when you’re just all by yourself.
- Spend time with your friends and family
Now is the best time to remember your closest peers and family members. You can even ask them if it’s alright for you to spend the holidays at their place. That way, you won’t have to be totally alone. This is definitely the perfect opportunity to reconnect with special people in your life and you might be surprised with how much moral support you can actually get from them.
- Don’t forget to take care of yourself
Remember, you are responsible for your own feelings. If you want to feel happy and contented, you need to work on it and be serious about it. If you feel tired, don’t hesitate to take a rest. When you are super tired, you tend to also feel more depressed and anxious about a lot of things.
Believing in yourself
Being a single mom may be tough but it does not mean that it is impossible to be a good one. The holidays will soon be over before you know it and you just have to keep yourself together until then. There are more than enough ways to get though this season without having to feel left out or indifferent. You just need to keep believing on yourself while also holding on the other people’s support and love.