Adoption For A Single Woman: Can They?

Last Updated on January 18, 2024 by Lori Pace

If you are an unmarried, divorced or widowed woman looking to start a family, your first question may be “Is adoption possible for single women?”.

And the answer is yes. It is totally possible to adopt as a single woman. Although the process of adopting a child may seem overwhelming, it is normal to make the experience with the right information. While there may be different restrictions and circumstances for single women adopting, most potential adoptive parents will face the same restrictions, regardless of whether they are married or single. The facts will help make the process less stressful and easier.

What Type Of Adoption Is Possible As a Single Woman?

It is important to understand the different types and decide which type of adoption you should choose as you build your forever family. Prospective adoptive parents can choose to adopt via intercountry, foster care, or private domestic adoption. Each type of adoption has a different process. It is possible to adopt as a single mother with each type of adoption; it is important to understand how the process works.

What Type Of Adoption Is Possible As a Single Woman?

Private Domestic Adoption

This type of adoption is popular among single women who wish to adopt an infant or complete an adoption in the United States. Private domestic adoption refers to when the birth mother (or birth parents) makes an adoption plan for their child. The prospective adoptive parents choose the birth parents and decide how much contact or communication they want to have with their child. Private domestic adoption is possible in many ways.

If you are a single woman and would like to find an agency that can match you with a birth mom, your first step should be to search for agencies that offer domestic private adoptions. While most do, it is important that you do your research to find the best agencies in your area.

Get an Adoption Lawyer

You can use an adoption lawyer to help you with a private domestic adoption. You should use an adoption service provider in order to complete your adoption, whether through an adoption lawyer or agency. They are familiar with the legalities and steps involved in adopting in each state. They will be able to advise you and provide training and resources. It’s worth it.

Private Domestic Adoption Eligibility

While eligibility to adopt as a single female will vary from one agency to the next, most state guidelines have a minimum age, required background check and home study requirements. This also includes the income requirements. In private domestic adoptions, it is common for birth parents to select a single woman to place their child. You can communicate with your agency or an adoption attorney why you are the best mother to their child through a parent profile. This is a list of information that birth mothers share with you, as well as conversations with your agency.

You will most likely meet in person once a birth mother or birth parent has identified you as a potential adoptive mom for their child. Sometimes, the first conversation takes place over the phone. Next, you will meet in person at either your adoption agency or attorney’s office. You will make the final decision to place your child with the birth mother or birth parents.

Foster Care Adoption 

Foster care adoption is an example of a foster care adoption where it is possible to adopt as a single mother. This adoption is a different process. It is cheaper than international adoption, private domestic adoption, or international adoption for a single woman. 

Before adopting a child from foster care in their state, many single mothers decide to become foster mothers. Fostering a child may make them ineligible for adoption, or even prevent them from becoming eligible. Foster children who are eligible for adoption must have their parental rights terminated by their birth parents before adoption can be considered. This may take longer. Many children are already available for adoption. 

Intercountry Adoption

Intercountry Adoption

Intercountry adoption is possible for single women to adopt. However, there are some limitations. There are different requirements for adopting in each country. These requirements include income requirements, number of children living at home, whether you’re single or married, as well as the length of your marriage. Some countries do not allow intercountry adoptions.

A number of countries allow single women to adopt . These countries all sign the Hague Convention. They include, as of today, China, India, Haiti, India and Colombia. Each country has its own requirements, costs, timelines, and number of children that people can adopt. As the requirements and timelines can change, it is important that you speak with your adoption agency about each country.

Intercountry adoption is more expensive than domestic or private adoption. A single woman can help to fund an adoption by using the adoption tax credit or adoption grants.

What Does A Home Study Consist Of For A Single Woman Planning For Adoption?

Once you have decided who will be your adoptive parent and the type of adoption you want to pursue, you will need a home study. A home study is a process that takes up to a month to collect information and paperwork. Then, a licensed social worker from your state will visit your home to conduct interviews and conduct interviews with you and anyone else living in the home. If your agency has licensed social workers in your state, the home study can also be done by them. To complete the process in your own state, you might also consider using another adoption agency or home study service provider. When interviewing agencies, it is important to find out if they will complete your home study. If not, you may need to contact an additional agency.

The home study aims to make sure that you are capable, loving, and safe in raising a child through adoptive parenthood. It isn’t scary. Many single mothers say that they learned a lot about how to raise a child, as well as what safety issues could be addressed before adopting. A home study will provide information about your health, including a letter from a doctor, income, criminal and mental history. It may also include interviews with family members, friends and teachers if you are a parent.

Also, you will need to provide fingerprints and a driving record. After your home has been assessed for safety, you will be interviewed. After your home has been assessed for safety, you will be asked about your personal values, how you plan to care for your child, how you plan to communicate with your child one day, and your upbringing. You may be asked if you are a single mother if there will be male role models that can be trusted and supportive for your child. These could be family members, close friends, or leaders of faith. A plan will be needed for special needs children.

Other Factors To Consider As A Single Woman Preparing For Adoption

Other Factors To Consider As A Single Woman Preparing For Adoption

After you have completed your home study and been approved to adopt, there are many other things to take into consideration as a single woman wanting to adopt. Although it may take some time, you will receive the call. It can be overwhelming and wonderful. Next, and likely already addressed in the home study, is what support you will need for the next few months after the adoption is complete.

What Support You Will Need Once Your Child Has Returned Home.

Who will travel with you to take your child home if you’re completing an international adoption? Who will be your support person if the child is born at the hospital and who will take you to the hospital to meet your child and bring him/her home? This person’s purpose is to help you give your full attention to your child. This person is not there to support the child but for you. Think about who you can trust and who will give you unconditional support, even in stressful situations.

The Support You Will Provide For Your Child When You Return Home.

When you plan to return to work after your adoption leave is over, do you intend to use a daycare provider, au pair or nanny at home? It is crucial to think about whether you will be using a daycare provider, an au pair or nanny in the home. It can take time to find a provider.

The People Who Will Be A Significant Part Of Your Child’s Life.

This applies whether you’re single or married. What male role models do you want your child to look up to? Do you have godparents, close friends, or family members that you would like to be near your child’s side? You might arrange for them to have meals or go on outings with your child each month. You can also have a one-on-one session to give yourself some respite. 

It is crucial to find out who can stay over with your child if you have to travel for work. You should also ensure you have someone to take your child to if they are ill. These are just some of the many factors you should consider when considering the support your child and you will need once you return home from the adoption process.

Lori Pace
Lori Pace

Lori Pace is a single mother of three daughters ages 7 and under. As a working mom from home, she balances kids, work and two crazy dogs with humor and love. Follow Lori as she honestly gives tips and advice based on her own experiences as a single mom!