Newly divorced, getting ready for surviving the holidays alone, with or without the kids. Sound familiar?
With the holiday season just around the corner, you are most definitely feeling not only the rush and excitement but also the stress and even worries, especially if you are now a single mother. Although this time of the year can be the happiest and highly anticipated season, it is also surprisingly common to experience depression and anxiety. For single parents, this is not at all a big surprise.
While being a single mom may mean that you will have to create new traditions or even spend the season all by yourself, there are still many ways and things that you can come up with to make sure that you will enjoy this much-awaited break.
- 1 Surviving the Holidays Alone: 2 Ways.
- 1.1 1. With your children:
- 1.2 2. Without your children:
Surviving the Holidays Alone: 2 Ways.
1. With your children:
If you get to spend the holidays with your children, that is undoubtedly something to be thankful for. And of course, you will also need to do careful planning on how to make it memorable even without the other parent. Here are some tips to consider:
Don’t be afraid to start a new tradition.
Perhaps as a complete family, you used to have traditions that you would always do or perform each year for this occasion. If it is no longer making you feel happy or comfortable, you can come up with something else by all means. Ask for your children’s opinion, and if they agree, you can go ahead and start doing something new just for the sake of feeling a new sense of excitement and joy.
For example, if you and your family used to cook meals at home, maybe this year you can still do the same and try something from a nearby restaurant. Or you can also cook a new dish while bonding with your kids.
Make sure your children are involved in everything.
Your kids will indeed feel appreciated and essential if you always ask for their opinions before deciding on something. Not only will it make the task more comfortable for you, but more so, it will bring you and your children closer.
Let’s say you plan to go on a movie marathon or something to that effect. You can ask your kids first about the movies they want and consider their suggestions.
Take leave and spend a lot of time with your kids.
Apart from all the gifts and sumptuous meals, this season is also all about spending time with the people you love the most. If you can, take a vacation or file a leave from work so that you get to spend more quality time together.
Your kids will appreciate your effort, and they will never forget how you tried your best to make the holidays special and worth-remembering for them.
If you will be spending the holidays alone, it does not have to mean that you will sit in one corner and let the good times pass you by.
Yes, it can be devastating not to have your kids with you on such a special event, but you also need to consider the other parent’s feelings and your children’s.
Don’t worry though, you can still have a wonderful holiday on your own!
So, what can you do to make the holidays enjoyable and fun even when you are alone?
Here are some tips:
Go somewhere else
One of the best things you could do is take a vacation and go somewhere else. It can be an out-of-town trip or just a visit to the beach – it does not matter as long as you know you will have a great time and you can enjoy it even when you’re just all by yourself.
Spend time with your friends and family
Now is the best time to remember your closest peers and family members. You can even ask them if it’s alright for you to spend the holidays at their place. That way, you won’t have to be alone.
This time is the perfect opportunity to reconnect with special people in your life, and you might be surprised with how much moral support you can get from them.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself.
Remember, you are responsible for your feelings. If you want to feel happy and contented, you need to work on it and be serious about it. If you feel tired, don’t hesitate to take a rest. When you are super tired, you tend to also feel more depressed and anxious about a lot of things.
Believe in yourself.
Being a single mom may be tough, but it does not mean that it is impossible to be a good one. The holidays will soon be over before you know it, and you have to keep yourself together until then.
There are more than enough ways to start surviving the holidays alone without feeling left out or indifferent. You need to keep believing in yourself while also holding on the other people’s support and love.