Being a mother is difficult enough for many people, even when you have a partner or you are single mum. Imagine that much of pressure is being tripled, and that’s how you know a mom of 3 can be super handful. But here’s what you should know about having three children and how to balance your life without putting yourself under stresses and depressions.
- 1 Three is always a crowd when you are a mom of 3
- 2 Combining two of these is basically a vacation
- 3 Everything is a contest for a mom of 3
- 4 Silence is not possible
- 5 It is important to have one-on-one conversations
- 6 They are hard-working and they forgive easily
- 7 Tips for balancing your life as a mom of 3
Three is always a crowd when you are a mom of 3
One is almost always left out when you have three children. There is a good chance that two of your children will be teasing each other on any given day. Supermom must figure out a way to make the situation better for all three of your children. It is impossible to encourage kindness, inclusion, and structured activity. But it always ends up in a two-vs.-one battle and Mom shouting four letters she will soon regret.
Combining two of these is basically a vacation
You can take any of your children with you and you will be in heaven. Life is great when one of your children leaves the chaos of your home to go to a sporting event or playdate, and you only have two. It’s good and simple. There is no fighting, crying, or mom screaming. They become more polite and say things like thank you and please. It is hard to believe that these are the same little people you knew and where your children went.
You would never give up a child. We all know that. But these precious moments of parenting only two children are wonderful and well-deserved. Take advantage of them while you still can.
Everything is a contest for a mom of 3
They all shout “Shotgun!” or “Dibs”. Common exclamations include “I said that first” or “Hey! That was my idea!” as well as “It’s my turn to choose a movie!” Your house will always have a contest and you’re the referee, the one who decides who wins this unfair game of life.
Silence is not possible
What is the best way to watch a movie? Talking to a friend over the phone? Do you need to clean the house? Even if your children speak only a little, there is a good chance that at least one of them will have something to share every 30 seconds. This means that you won’t have uninterrupted thoughts, Mom. You are one of three. It is fine to say “oh, that’s nice”, “wow,” or “mmhmm” and not pay attention to your child so you can focus on your thoughts. You will get distracted easily, so don’t be a slave to it. But allow yourself to relax once in a while. Friends, put your health first.
It is important to have one-on-one conversations
You will have the most special moments with your child, no matter what time it is. It will be like you’re getting to know your child better and will make you want to pour love into them.
It will take your breath away to see their gentle nature, sharp wit and kindness. You’ll be amazed at how many people don’t notice them as much as they do. Then comes the nagging mother guilt. It will tell you that your children deserve better and that you are failing to be a good mother. You are enough, so let that guilt go. These 1-1 moments were chosen for you. These moments are priceless. It doesn’t matter what.
They are hard-working and they forgive easily
Your children live their lives as three and they are able to see the love underneath all of their sibling rivalry, chaos, and arguments. They support each other when things get tough. These kids will support each other when one isn’t selected for the team they want to be on. They will always do.
Perhaps the best part is that you might just be taken by the unexpected silence. They fit perfectly together, like three peas in one pod. And your heart melts.
Tips for balancing your life as a mom of 3
Some people work a 9-5 job. It can be difficult to know when you should work because you don’t have a schedule. It is a good idea to plan your schedule ahead of time. Although the schedule may change over time, this will help you know what you should be doing and when you should be focusing on your family.
Turn downtime into productive time
It’s okay to bring your laptop with you to the kids’ activities, and then work from home. Sometimes that means you have to write down ideas and lists in order to get an internet connection. But the important thing is that you’re getting something done.
Learn to say “No!”
Every week you’ll reach a point where you need to be alone. To do that, you must say no to your children and to your work.
This could mean that you can decline an assignment or forgo the potential income it might bring you. It could also mean telling your child that you cannot participate in a board gaming session due to deadlines. However, it doesn’t matter how difficult or easy it might seem, parents who work need to be able to say no.
It’s a blessing to be able both to work and to take care of my children. My family can achieve different financial goals by working full-time. I can tell you that without me, our savings accounts would be in very bad shape.
It’s essential to be organized and have boundaries, even if you are working full-time and raising children. This allows me to keep a manageable schedule in the midst of the constant chaos that is my life.