The following is a story written and shared by a single mom who wanted to share her single mom pregnancy story with us:
Expectations, dreams, hopes – we all have them, don’t we? Especially when it comes to how we’re going to live our lives. How we’re going to find happiness, and how we’re going to raise children, have a family, and live with the love of our lives.
Like everyone, I had many expectations when it comes to my life as a grown-up. I was confident I’d find the perfect guy, be happily married, and have four kids. This vision of my little family creating a home, having a comfortable place spot where we all belonged, kept me going through many tough times.
When I got married at 22 and reality kicked in, my vision of life “happily ever after” got blurry. But my expectation of having a family with the man I had married never changed. A few years passed, and we realized that this wasn’t working anymore. After years of struggling with my self-worth and conscience, I left my husband.
I’ve always believed marriage is for the long haul; I still do. You don’t just run away; you stick with it, fight for it, and don’t give up.
But I gave up. I couldn’t see a way of making it work anymore.
Shocking News – My Single Mom Pregnancy
Just a side note – my ex-husband and I’ve been trying to conceive for years without any luck. You can probably guess what happened next. Two days after our divorce, I found out I was pregnant. This came as a massive and overwhelming shock.
I thought about restoring our relationship and trying to make it work, but I knew that the separation was the best choice for all of us. I could change the picture of our happy family in my head and ready to adjust my future expectations as a woman, mother, and business owner.
What I hadn’t expected, however, was him not being in touch once, not asking about the baby – a child he had so wanted – not caring at all. He told me that growing up with parents that always fight, love each other, yes, but can’t be together is not an option. And he doesn’t want to be a part of the child’s life.
I know that children can sense everything, and I don’t want my child to grow up in an atmosphere that is anything but loving and kind. I don’t want my child to have to carry the burden of parents being together only because of an unexpected pregnancy, resenting each other for the decisions they have made,
But I did grow up seeing “family” as one of the significant values in life. And I know how important it is to have that support.
What did I do?
At the realization that I might have to go through a single mom pregnancy, I first went to pieces.
I started thinking of everything I’ll be going through alone. There’s the birth; I’m doing it alone. Then there are the first few months – I’m doing those alone. The biggest thing, though – there is a whole lifetime of raising a child that I’m now planning to do alone.
Then I realized – It may be different than I had expected. But it doesn’t mean that it’s not going to be beautiful, full of laughter, happiness, and joy. It doesn’t mean that the little one won’t be content with being raised in a single-parent home. It doesn’t mean that my child, this child that I never thought I’d have, won’t be vibrant and happy and totally loving life.
This child, a beautiful baby of mine, will change my life. And I’ll change his or hers.
My New Life – When The Baby Came
A completely new life started when my daughter came into the world. I started working harder than ever before to become financially independent, and I went to night school and finished my business degree. I am now the owner of a gorgeous little bakery in our small town – we came here right after my girl was born.
The community loves us, and I’ve made tons of friends – there are so many incredible people here who support us and help me raise my girl.
Looking back, the thing that threatened to ruin my life forever actually saved me from myself. The dream I had of having a family is now more accurate than ever.
Right now is the happiest I’ve ever been in my life, and I’m never looking back. So if you are a frightened pregnant single mother, don’t worry too much – your new life may just be waiting around the corner.
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