8 Signs You’re Falling Out of Love With Your Partner and What to Do About It

Last Updated on January 19, 2024 by Lori Pace

Yes, there are many signals to let you know that you are falling out of love! Pay attention on these signs and make your own decision of what to do next. We believe that single moms should be aware of these things. Because they have experienced many things in their lives. Hence, being with someone they don’t love anymore will bring unwanted consequences, unhappiness not only to them but their kids!

Falling Out of Love

You and your partner were both smiling and passionate at the beginning of your relationship. You began to feel a bit drained and now you are reminiscing about the past instead of looking ahead to the future. This may sound familiar to you.

It is not the same as leaving the honeymoon phase, which can be a significant step in moving your relationship to the next level. However, falling out with love means that you see the negative sides of someone and are unable to move on. Falling out of love can lead to a fixation on differences and a failure to find common ground. The flaws in a partner are not seen as potential for growth, but rather as major character flaws.

Remember that even though you may feel you are losing love, this doesn’t mean that you aren’t caring about your partner. It just means that the intense feelings you once experienced aren’t there anymore. While you may feel guilt at the loss of your feelings, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be happy in a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you want to hurt someone. But it is important to listen to your heart to determine what is best for you both.

Signs You’re Falling Out of Love

Pay attention on signs that you are falling out of love.

It’s No Longer Exciting to Spend Time With Each Other

It could be a sign of falling out of love if you are no longer inseparable but were once close at heart. Giving each other more room can be good for your health. If you find yourself making plans with everyone and everything, but dreading the dinner date with your partner then it is time to reevaluate your feelings.

This is nothing to be ashamed of, but it’s a chance to look at your relationship and yourself to determine if you are truly falling out with love. Examine what might be causing this change in heart. Lack of desire to see a partner can be an indication of insecurity or fear about becoming too attached.

You’re No Longer Open To Your Partner

It’s thrilling to feel at ease sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone. It’s a great way to build a relationship with someone. If you are no longer open to discussing your feelings with your partner, but were previously honest and forthright, it’s a sign that things are not going well.

If your desire to communicate with someone you love is diminishing, it could be a sign of a relationship that is irreparable. It is crucial to have a healthy relationship with your partner. If you are avoiding conversations, refusing to make eye contact or refusing to talk about your feelings, you might need to end the relationship.

When You’re Falling Out of Love, You Find Ways to Avoid Your Partner

You may stop enjoying spending time with your partner. Then, you find yourself avoiding them. To avoid your partner, you may go to work late, go to movies, or eat alone at dinner. If you find yourself actively looking for ways to be apart from your partner, you may have lost your love for them or are not getting the best out of your relationship.

You’d Rather Not Talk About What Bothering You Instead of Fixing Things

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Although no one enjoys arguing, sometimes it is necessary to do so in order to strengthen your relationship. To maintain a healthy relationship, it is important to express and work through your anger and hurt. Contempt can lead to a host of problems in your relationship. Your contempt could lead to a breakdown in your relationship if you keep silent about what they do. This is a sign that you are falling out of love.

Feeling Uncertain About The Future With Them

You may be unsure whether you are falling in love or not. Ask yourself what your feelings are about the future of you and your partner. Talk to your partner if you feel trapped or unhappy about the prospect of being with them for the long-term. Process your feelings through journaling or meditation or speaking with a neutral party like a therapist. Talk to your partner and simply state your feelings, along with any concerns about the future.

Your partner may not be looking forward to the future. However, it could also indicate that you aren’t feeling hopeful. Feeling hopeless about the future may be a sign you haven’t had meaningful conversations and are unaware of your partner’s needs. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not in love anymore, but it is a sign to start a dialogue.

You’re Longing for Someone (or Something) Else

If you have been in a monogamous relationship for a while, it is perfectly normal to feel a crush on another person. However, you must not act on it. You’re human and can’t help but notice other people are attractive. If your innocent crush makes you less interested in your partner, it can be a problem. It could be a sign that you aren’t in love.

When someone is in love with another person, they begin to shift from a ‘we’ perspective to one of a ‘me’. They are primarily concerned about their own needs and pursuing their own interests, which can lead to distance or resentment within the relationship. If you are constantly fantasizing about other people, or if you long for new experiences, it is likely that your partner is not fully invested in you.

You’re Overly Defensive when You’re Falling Out of Love

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You are defensive and constantly criticize your partner.

If you are defensive, your partner will find it difficult to communicate effectively with you and air their grievances. You may not be able to communicate with your partner effectively if you are being defensive in every conversation.

You Constantly Criticize Your Partner

Everyone hates to be criticized, even a romantic partner. If criticism becomes a regular part of your relationship, it could be a sign that you are falling out with your partner. Instead of being sensitive to their feelings and showing your dismay in a respectful manner, you attack their character whenever they make a mistake or disappoint you in any way. 

It comes down to whether your criticism is rooted in your inability to love your partner or an internal psychological battle. All the above signs are valid. Always ask yourself: What fear could be influencing my response to my partner? Is this something that I can address or overcome without losing the great love of my heart?

Lori Pace
Lori Pace

Lori Pace is a single mother of three daughters ages 7 and under. As a working mom from home, she balances kids, work and two crazy dogs with humor and love. Follow Lori as she honestly gives tips and advice based on her own experiences as a single mom!