why do guys text less after a while

Why Do Guys Text Less After A While?

Last Updated on November 24, 2022 by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt

When you first meet a guy, and especially during the initial stages of your relationship, texting is THE communication channel for online dating. But then, he suddenly stops texting. Why and when do guys text less after a while?

In a nutshell, the relationship often starts so well. You send him a message and he replies. You guys were texting almost non-stop before you knew it. Every day. Then, you notice a shift in your behavior. You notice a shift in his response time. He is less responsive and takes longer to reply. Or, he responds with the dreaded one word texts.

What Does It Mean When He Slows Down On Texting?

The “slow fade” isn’t ghosting, but it’s not engagement either. No matter if you are in a long-term relationship or you have just been dating, if your partner is slowing down on texting and becoming less involved in the relationship, you’re probably should ask yourself “what is happening?”.

Here’s the thing:

You don’t want, and should not be with someone who isn’t ready to share about life with you. More than that, you especially don’t want invest in a one-sided relationship. Your partner should be the one who care for you and connect with you.

“Waiting is weighting,” says Armstrong.

So, if you’re in early stages of relationship, stop initiating and texting and wait to see if he comes back around. Because if he’s interested, he will. But don’t wait to long, 3 days, or even a week is more than enough. You have your life and other things in life to care for.

On the other hand, if you are in a long-term relationship and he is slowly cutting off communication, you really need to confront him before making any big decisions. If he isn’t ready for it, wait. But if he dodges the question, or even avoid conversation, you might have to rethink about the reason why, or even what decision should you make.

Reasons Why Do Guys Text Less After A While?

Guys Text Less Because He Got A Busier Life

He Got a Busier Life
If he is so laid back and lazy, you should be worried.

Yes, life does happen. Sometimes, life will happen and he may not be able to reply as fast or as funny as he used to be. He might not be responding online, but men tend to be more focused on one thing at once. Don’t let this get you down.

What To Do:

You should give the man a break. It’s important to be understandable.

Guys Text Less As He Needs Some “Me Time”

Sometimes, even if you’re an introvert or a huge sports fan, guys need to take a break from being constantly wired. For introverts, “me time” is essential to recharge their batteries so that they can return full of energy. What about the guys who enjoy playing sports? You see these guys on their phones while they’re running, playing football or skating at the skatepark. None, exactly.

Needs Some “Me Time”
Everyone has their own hobbies.

What To Do:

You should also have me time! Enjoy some tea and a good book! Take some “me time” and enjoy it.

He’s Out With His Friends

He’s Out With His Friends
He has his friends and you have yours, girls!

Guys are often out with their friends and the worst thing a man can be called is “whipped.” Don’t wait for your text to validate him when he’s not with you. If he is serious with you, there will be more to prove.

What To Do:

This means that you need to enjoy your life and, if you are out with friends, you should enjoy the moment and not be glued to your phone.

Guys Text Less Because He’s More Comfortable With You

Sometimes he will let you know a little more as you get to know each other better after the initial chase. Because he has seen that you are interested in him and now he is comfortable with you, he will let you go.

What To Do:

It’s almost impossible to maintain the same pace you had when you first met. You need to remember, however, that texts should not be taken as validation. Isn’t it better to have face-to-face conversations with your man than chatting online? It doesn’t matter if he is online and does not respond. You should be grateful for the time he spends with you in person.

He Lost Interest BUT Not All Is Lost

There is no guarantee in love. It’s possible for things to go wrong. Sometimes you might think, “He is online but not talking to us”. If you are constantly in their faces, men can’t know what they want. Texting him less because he might be losing interest isn’t going to help.

What To Do:

You should not chase him or send him “check-in” texts. If he starts to feel lost, he will contact you. Trust me. It doesn’t have to be the booty call type text

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