Parenthood is surely one of the toughest responsibilities that anyone can face. Being a parent is totally rewarding but it is never easy – and you can just imagine how harder it can actually get for a single mother. Solo parenting is even more demanding, hectic and also stressful for most single moms. However, once you are already in this particular situation, you will have no choice but to be brave and accept the responsibility with everything that you got.
It may be hard at first, or well, who says it is ever easy? But then again, there are still a lot of single mother tips and tricks that you can try to make the most out of your current situation. Whether you are a widow, divorced or a single mother by choice, you can still make this journey enjoyable and successful.
1.) Connecting with your kids
Now that you are a single mother, you will also need to handle a lot of decisions and tasks all by yourself. One of the roles that you need to assert immediately would be as the head of the household. When it comes to your children’s behavior, you will be typically called for it, whether good or bad. You do not want to get overwhelmed with everything that needs to settled, especially how your kids will turn out to be in the future. The best way is to start early and to connect with your kids in as much ways as you can. A strong family routine would be a great help, especially if you can all stick to it. A good example would be setting a curfew time each night or to allocate household chores to everyone in the family.
Make time to help your kids with their homework so you will also have the time and opportunity to get to know them better. You will learn more about their strengths and weaknesses and even their personalities as you get to spend more time with them. A family time will also be better, when you can simply bond and have a great time catching up.
2.) Stop feeling guilty
At one point or another, you will find yourself feeling guilty about everything that has happened, especially if you can see that your kids are negatively affected. The least that you can do for yourself is to stop feeling guilty or embarrassed. You also do not need to feel obliged to spoil your kids just because you think you are not enough for them. Make them understand everything and tell them that while it is not really easy for the most parts, you can still have a happy family together even when you are the only parent left.
3.) Don’t forget to take care of yourself
Yes, you are the sole provider now but that does not necessarily mean that you will stop taking care of yourself. This includes different physical activities that you used to enjoy, as well as getting enough rest and sleep. Keep in mind that since you are now on your own, the more that you have to take care of your health and mental state so that you will always be healthy and stable enough to be there for your family. It also helps a lot to plan or arrange some time that you can spend for yourself, such as going to the spa or getting a full body massage. This will not only allow you to recharge but at the same time lets you value yourself and your wellbeing.
4.) Never be afraid to ask for help
Sure, you are a single mother but that does not mean that you are a superwoman. There would still be times when you will feel alone and depressed and even tired, and in times like these, you do not have to be scared or embarrassed to ask for help. Take note that there are still people around you who would be more than willing to lend a helping hand when you needed it the most. It may also help to join a support group for single mothers like you so you can meet new people with the same situation as yours. This way you will have more people to talk to when you need it.
Don’t forget that you still have your friends and other relatives to help you get through this. These people will be your source of strength, aside of course from your kids.
5.) Staying positive
There is nothing wrong with feeling tired or depressed, but then again, don’t let that feeling get the best of you. Remember that you have to keep going for the sake of your kids. As a single mother, you have to always look at the brighter side. Stay away from negative thoughts as those will only bring you down.