Last Updated on July 26, 2023 by Lori Pace
A positive discipline is an approach to parenting that can be an effective tool for teaching your child what behavior is and isn’t acceptable. It’s a technique that focuses on creating a positive environment and reinforcing healthy habits, as opposed to punishing bad behavior.
When done correctly, positive discipline can help foster self-esteem, responsibility, respect, and cooperation in children while helping to prevent future misbehavior. In other words, this technique can help parents teach their children the skills they need to become successful adults.
Whether you’re looking for new mom parenting tips or you simply want to approach disciplining your child differently than you have been, this article may be of help.
Types of Positive Discipline Techniques
First, no matter which technique you decide to practice, everyone who provides care for the child has to be on the same page regarding what the rules are and what the consequences are for violation. Mom and Dad, of course, but also grandparents, aunts/uncles, and (after you’ve run nanny background checks) any outside caregivers.
With that in mind, there are 5 main types of positive discipline:
- Verbal Praise & Redirection – When your child does something they should, make sure you let them know that their action or behavior was appreciated.
- Natural Consequences – This technique lets your child know that there will be a result of their misbehavior without having to resort to punishments.
- Logical Consequences – Similar to natural consequences. However, they’re designed for more serious behaviors and should be appropriate and related to the behavior in question.
- Time-Out / Time-In – A time-out is a way to remove the child from an emotionally charged situation. The goal should be to provide your child with some space and allow them to take the time they need to calm down rather than make it a punishment. Time-in focuses on teaching children how to manage their big feelings in healthy ways without taking away privileges or time-outs.
- Positive Reinforcement – Rewards that are earned for good behavior and should be immediate, meaningful, and in proportion to the action.
Establishing Rules and Boundaries
Rules should be age-appropriate and consistent. In addition, it’s important to also help your child identify their boundaries – that is, what behaviors are acceptable and which ones are not. Clearly define expectations and be consistent with enforcing rules and boundaries. It’s also important to be reasonable – if a rule or boundary is too strict, children may find it hard to adhere to.
When used consistently, this can help parents encourage good behaviors in their children. At the same time, they also create an environment where self-discipline is possible, which teaches kids important lessons about consequences and how to regulate their own behavior and keep them happy and healthy.
Set a Good Example
Whether you’re a single mom or have a large support network, the most important aspect of positive discipline is to be a good role model for your child. This means demonstrating the same politeness and respect that you expect from them. If you’re polite, respectful, and patient with your kids, they’ll be more likely to pick up on those behaviors as well. In addition, it’s also a good idea to practice self-care – taking a break when feeling overwhelmed and taking care of yourself will help you stay consistent and provide your child with a good example to follow.
In summary, positive discipline is an effective way to teach children valuable skills while maintaining respect for both the parent and the child. It’s important to be consistent with enforcing rules and boundaries, as well as setting a good example for your child. Additionally, verbal praise and positive reinforcement are effective ways to encourage good behavior.
By taking the time to understand how these techniques work, parents can help foster self-esteem, responsibility, respect, and cooperation in their kids while helping prevent future misbehavior.